The absence of fathers matters

Maybe you heard about the tribute Kevin Durant paid to his mother last week. You probably missed the one he paid to his dad.

Both came during Durant’s acceptance speech after being named the NBA’s Most Valuable Player. Maybe you don’t follow sports; maybe you’ve never heard of Durant; maybe you think a pick and roll is a roadside produce stand. You still should see the video.

–SNIP– The absence of fathers matters.

We have evolved a society wherein we pretend the opposite is true. The disappearance of fathers is now nearly the norm. Almost one in four American children lives in a household without their biological dads. For brown kids, that number stands at about 28%. For black kids, it’s a little better than half.

Mass incarceration and the War on Drugs certainly have played a role in this. But just as surely, a role is also played by the new social more that says it’s OK for a man or a woman to be feckless, for him to wander away because he is immature, selfish and young, for her to have a baby on her own because the clock is ticking and, really, she doesn’t need a man for anything more than sperm. This is the new morality, the new American mind-set.

And we tell ourselves it’s OK, . . .

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